Why I’m giving up the City Life
Why would anyone want to give up a nice, civilized life in a big city for a third world country existence?
I used to live in downtown Toronto for 15 years in a townhouse surrounded by condos and row houses. With so many people living close to each other you would think we’d know the neighbors really well. The reality was besides a couple who lived directly behind us we knew little about anyone else.
At first the area had an edgy vibe, which I liked, being that it was on the border of Parkdale, a gritty, and sometimes scary neighborhood filled with new immigrants. We had hookers up the street (always harmless but amusing) and colorful characters who often talked to themselves (also harmless and amusing). Over time the area became hip, then fashionable. Trendy bars and retail began to replace the quirky owner operated shops that I used to go to. Derelict buildings made way for concrete lofts. To me the area had sold its soul to developers.
But you can’t stop change and life is about change. It’s about letting go and moving on.
“The Chef” and I decided to move to the edge of the city to a neighborhood that had a small town feel. It’s a funny thing, downtown you can’t escape seeing people but you seldom make eye contact. In our new neighborhood you seldom see anyone but when you do you smile and greet them. You get to know the people on your street and hear their stories.
We all share the need to feel connected, the need to belong.
We thought we’d be happy but something is still missing. We are conditioned to believe that if you work hard you will reach your dreams. But it seems working hard is not good enough. Dreams are becoming unaffordable, as we need to dedicate more time and money to our basic living. To me the city has become a dream killer, a cold environment filled with stress and negativity. Maybe it’s just me. Maybe I’ve outgrown the city or the city has outgrown me.
It’s time to explore new opportunities and ideas. It’s time to find new passion.
So for the next chapter in our lives, ‘the Chef’ and I have picked an island life in the tropics to live simply and rejoice in each day. Don’t think each day will be just another day in paradise. I’m a Capricorn and a realist so I ‘m not deluding myself. Any place you go to will have it’s own problems but we’re willing to take the challenge and rediscover ourselves and the world around us.
Don’t be afraid to give your dreams a chance. Give yourself a chance.